it’s always like this

February 22, 2010

but everybody loves him

Filed under: family ties, perfect strangers — notsojenny @ 8:40 am

my sister and i had an interesting conversation the other day that sparked some interest for me.  it really made me think of something in a way i’ve never thought about it before.

you’ve all seen the show “Everybody Loves Raymond” right?  for the sake of this post, let’s say Yes.  because i’ve watched this show for years and i have always liked it.  not only was it well written and casted but the concept was just particularly good.  a man and his wife deal with the everyday craziness that is his family.  his poor wife deals with the crazy involved mother in law, the aloof-covers-everything-with-humor father in law, and the dysfunctional brother who would be totally normal were he not brought up in that particular family.

that’s the way everyone sees it, right?  ut uh.  apparently not.  and i’d never given any thought that some people might see it differently.

we realized this when my sister’s mother in law made a comment about my sister reminding her of Debra, the wife, and it was most definitely not a compliment.  my sister and i were laughing because we both always thought Debra was the only normal one in the family, i mean it just seemed like that was part of the story, not just our interpretation.  but apparently we were very wrong.

the funny thing is that my sister’s mom in law is very much like Marie, the mother in law on the show.  totally overbearing and sometimes condescending but always up in everyone’s business.  she’s not quite as bad but she’s definitely up there.  she just thinks she’s always doing great things for people but never bothers to ask if people want these things done.  so anyway, it made us realize that maybe all people who watch the show all see it differently.  that everyone aligns themselves with the character they’re actually more like.  could it be?  i mean could it be that brilliant?!? 

because while my sister and i see it as Debra having to deal with these crazy inlaws my sister’s mother in law apparently sees it as the parents having to deal with a bossy daughter in law.

does anyone else see this show differently?  or is my sister’s mother in law just kinda crazy?



~ today i learned… on average 8mm lbs. of guacamole are consumed on Super Bowl Sunday (i can vouch for that) ~



  1. I am so on Team Debra…that mother in law would make me INSANE!

    Comment by Amy --- Just A Titch — February 22, 2010 @ 12:22 pm

  2. Hahaha oh man, that’s funny that she sees it that way. I always watched the show assuming that Debra was the only normal one.

    Comment by stealthnerd — February 22, 2010 @ 2:13 pm

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