it’s always like this

December 12, 2008

the day

Filed under: a wedding story — notsojenny @ 9:41 am

believe it or not we’re shooting for a Friday event.  (did i just hear gasps??)

Friday works for us.  here’s the thinking behind it…

  • it’s cheaper for just about everything to have it any day other than saturday
  • 90% of our guests will be coming in from out of town so they’re going to have to take days off of work no matter what
  • this will allow us to do a fun weekend and spend more time with everyone that’s travelling in
  • we’ll do the rehearsal stuff thursday night but then schedule lots of stuff for saturday and sunday
  • we’ll do a brunch on sunday (rather than the day after) as a last get together for the people leaving town
  • but on saturday we’ll plan all sorts of fun stuff.  maybe have a bus take everyone out to the wineries?  busch gardens?  we’ll do something to spend more time with everyone and make their visit worth while

some people may think, “but now people have to take thursday & friday off rather than just one day.  you shouldn’t ask them to do that.”  don’t worry, we’ve thought about this.  and we think it’s not that big of a deal.  if someone can’t take a day off of work to attend our wedding then that’s their loss.  i know it sounds shitty but that’s the just the way it is.  we’re going to be hospitable in every way possible.  i’ve never been to a wedding (that we had to travel to) that was “convenient” anyway.  i personally feel like having it on friday makes it feel more like a relaxing trip rather than a rushed one where people fly in friday night, attend the wedding all day saturday, and then high-tail it out sunday morning. 

with all this being said i have nothing against saturday weddings and am not intending to insult everyone who has them… which is 85% of couples (i made that stat up but it sounds like it could be right).  M and i just think that the friday setup suits us and our guests better.  our guest list looks something like this…
10% family
4% kids
86% 27-42 yr olds

in short… it’s a big drinking and celebrating crowd : )

like i said before, we’re making it more about the venue.  if the place we must have only has dates left in July then i guess we’ll be getting married in July.  who knows what will happen.  right now we’ve decided on our venue after looking at a few more the other day.  now we’re just waiting to hear back from them to see what dates are available.

i mentioned this to my sister who immediately started an argument.  always trying to poke holes in everything because it’s not what she would do.  i almost hung up on her but i’m really not that concerned.  she’s not rattling me or making me reconsider anything it just gets on my nerves that she needs to argue EVERYTHING with me.  she went on and on about how people won’t really want to spend more time there and they’re just travelling in for the wedding so why would they feel the need to stay.  i had to point out to her that she’s NEVER been to a wedding where she had to travel for it.  M and i have been to our fair share and we both agree.  i laughed when my sister said “have you asked people about this?  who’s going to want to stay for the weekend?”  through my laughter i said ” i thought my family would but i guess i was wrong”.  at this point we’re really not open to everyone’s input.  we’ve asked around for the important things and we’re not going to let all of the guests mutually dictate our wedding.  after all, we know that all of our groups of friends will enjoy having a weekend to be together when they hardly ever get to see each other.  my sister is very different from me, and my friends.  her p.o.v. doesn’t represent many in this crowd.

anyway that’s it.  once we hear back from this lady who is taking her sweet time we’ll have a date.  i can’t wait to find out what day we’re going to get married!  it’s by far going to be the best news this month!



~ today i learned… Telly Savalas and Louis Armstrong died on their birthdays ~



  1. I think Friday weddings are becoming more popular. I know a girl who recently had one, and one of my best friend’s is getting married on a Friday next summer. I think it will be great. Don’t let your sister be annoying and get you down – this is your day and I think that your friends and everyone else will enjoy any sort of activities you plan for the rest of the weekend. If you’re going to travel down for a wedding on Friday, why would you rush back home on Saturday? I think it will be great and people will appreciate the thought and extra time they’ll get to spend with you guys.

    Comment by DanceintheRain — December 12, 2008 @ 10:45 am

  2. i think friday is definitely the better option! people can booze it up and have plenty of time hang out and have fun with friends and family and recover before having to travel home. this sounds most excellent and i’d do the same if i was getting married. plus it saves the $$$$.

    your sister is such a debbie downer. its your wedding! how hilarious that she asks who would want to stay the ENTIRE weekend to celebrate your getting married, one of the most important moments in a person life?! how inconvenient of you!

    Comment by dmb5_libra — December 12, 2008 @ 11:53 am

  3. It’s your wedding, do what you want. If people don’t come because it’s on a Friday then you probably won’t miss them anyway. The people you are closest to will come no matter what :)

    Comment by jackie — December 12, 2008 @ 1:21 pm

  4. I LOVE the Friday wedding idea! I’ve been thinking about doing the same thing b/c there’s a date that I have in mind (a day date, not month specific) and if it happens to hit on a Friday so be it. And besides, it’s just like jackie said–if people can’t take an extra day off to attend your wedding, you probably won’t miss them much anyway!

    Comment by stealthnerd — December 12, 2008 @ 3:09 pm

  5. The Independence Day holiday is being observed on Friday, July 3rd this year. 3 day weekend for most. I know I have it off. It’s an idea…

    Comment by freckledk — December 12, 2008 @ 3:52 pm

  6. I totally support a Friday wedding and would do it in a heartbeat!

    Heck, my best friend was married on a Tuesday (long story…) and it was wonderful, no matter what the day!

    Comment by Lexi — December 12, 2008 @ 4:43 pm

  7. I had my wedding on a Sunday and it didn’t feel weird at all. Not every wedding has to be on a Saturday.

    And if I was invited to your wedding I would totally stay the weekend, but only if the Saturday was in fact spent at Busch Gardens. I love that place! :)

    Comment by littlespoon — December 16, 2008 @ 3:13 pm

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