it’s always like this

December 3, 2008

dressin’ VI

Filed under: a wedding story — notsojenny @ 11:07 am

i had a dress appointment last night. 

after M asked me to marry him i called my dress lady that weekend.  i told her that i wanted to try on whatever else they had and make a final decision and she told me to come on in.  so i went last night, knowing i was going to decide on something or other. 

i tried on a few styles i hadn’t had on before.  one i even really liked.  i’ve been searching the web but can’t find the dress anywhere to show you a picture.  it was pretty though.  square neck line with a little rouching in the center and a deep V back with a little obi style sash and flower on it.  it was really light and comfy.  but it was chiffon.  after everything i’ve tried on chiffon just didn’t feel like Wedding Gown to me.  if the dress had been in satin i probably would have instantly said yes.  but it wasn’t, so i moved on.

the very last dress i tried on last night was one i’d put on before.  and i loved it again.  when i showed my family the pictures my mom wanted to ask about having little cap sleeves put on it.  so i talked to my wonderful sales lady and we figured it out.  so here it is…. dududududududu (that’s my drumroll)

the second to last dress from dressin’ V.  but with little cap sleeves (like in the picture below… we threw  a jacket on over the vest so it won’t be that opaque.


(don’t mind the clip on my ass in that one)

so it’s hard to really show in the pictures what it’s going to look like so i’m not even bothering to repost the pictures of the entire dress.   once it’s all fitted to me and the changes are made to the vest (to make it into a jacket) i’ll put one up.

the nice thing is we’re ordering the lace to extend the vest and i’ll probably have some leftovers.  which means i can cover my mom’s headpiece!  yay!  the last time i was home i got her headpiece with veils attached.  it’s very early 70’s but i love it!  i knew i was going to disconnect the cathedral veil but was hoping to be able to tie in her headpiece without having to just take the short veil off and use that.  and now i think i can.  (of course when i mentioned this to my mom all i got was “okay”… ahh the excitement)

so as soon as we went through all this i made my decision.  i told my sales lady “this is it!”  and then she left the room to go get the price of the extra lace.  and my eyes filled up with tears.  i was excited to finally make the decision but i was also sad because i have to do all this stuff on my own.  my friend E was supposed to come with me last night but her brakes stopped working so she had to call me and bail to take her car into the shop.

it’s hard to make decisions like this alone.  i know i’m a big girl and i have alot of opinions anyway but i really have insecure tendencies that make me need approval on my decisions too.  it was actually really hard not to bring M into the process.  he helps me make all my decisions, especially fashion wise.  so of course i left there with doubts.  i’ve tried on so many dresses and i know the dream dress in my head just doesn’t exists, not anywhere i’ve seen anyway and definitely not at this under $1k price.  the decision is alot harder than i thought it would be.  i’ve tried on so many different styles and liked them all on so it really just came down to a matter of what i want it to look and feel like.  and i’ve been torn.  but i also know this feeling isn’t going to go away any time so i took the bull by the horns and made the call.  this dress has both the lace and satin details that i was looking for and the jacket makes it demure while the satin trumpet shape makes it a little sexy.  it feels alot more like ME than other dresses i’ve put on.  so i’m happy.

i have a hair appointment at lunch and then we’re buying a wedding dress today!  it’s crazy to say.

i just hope it’s not like prom where i bought my dress in the beginning of the school year and despised it by the time prom rolled around and spent most of the night self-conscious and bummed about it.



~ today i learned… goldfish have a memory span of three seconds. ~



  1. Nooo! It won’t be like prom! You’re gonna love your dress–from how you described it, it’s got a little of everything that you wanted it to have. You can’t beat that!

    Comment by stealthnerd — December 3, 2008 @ 11:38 am

  2. i love tha lace, so pretty :)

    i know how you feel about the approval thing. that is so me. my sister works in the same office building complex as me and i’ve called her to let me know if my outfit looks okay before a big meeting…weak!

    Comment by dmb5_libra — December 3, 2008 @ 12:26 pm

  3. My best friend and I were perusing wedding dress sites recently b/c we started discussing ugly wedding dresses and we were im-ing links back and forth to each other.

    I’m clicking through and land on the first incarnation of this dress and I got all warm and happy thinking ‘aw, that’s notsojenny’s dress.”

    Comment by littlespoon — December 3, 2008 @ 1:55 pm

  4. I love it!

    Comment by DanceintheRain — December 3, 2008 @ 3:52 pm

  5. I love the dress! You’re right it’s just the right combination of demure and sexy. It’s so original and stylish.

    Comment by Megkathleen — December 3, 2008 @ 7:16 pm

  6. I know exactly how you feel when you say you wish you weren’t taking on this moment alone. But I wouldn’t feel too bad about it. You’re not alone in any of your plans, and while it would have been ideal to have a friend or two there, eh, in the grand scheme of things, it’s not huge.

    LOVE the dress. Excellent choice! Two thumbs WAY up.

    Comment by magda — December 4, 2008 @ 10:32 am

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