it’s always like this

July 30, 2008

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Filed under: maybe it's me — notsojenny @ 4:53 pm

in an effort to tie up loose-ends i left a $5 tip.  it seemed to make the most sense without breaking my budget (yes, the same budget i’ve been blowing on unnecessary shopping sprees at Marshall’s).

much like magda and freckledk mentioned, i too am a chronic over-tipper.  i have self-induced anxiety over what my tip says about me.  the frugal side of me says that on a bill of $15, a $3 tip is more than appropriate as it’s a solid 20%.  the former waitress and bartender side of me says that if i have $20 and i ask to get $2 back i’m a cheap-ass who shouldn’t using services that require tipping.  this is another reason i’m broke.  i’ve contemplated starting to track how much i pay in just tips a year.  i’m convinced it’s a considerable amount.

it’s bad enough that i don’t want complete strangers, who are waiting on me at a place i’ll probably never go again, to think that i’m cheap but it gets much more costly with my regular servers.  at our usual mexican place i totally over-tip.  i know we’ll be back and i don’t want to piss off the waitstaff.  whenever i go to my stylist, that i’ve been going to for almost 6 years now, i tip excessively.  i know that tipping over 20% on a $75 haircut is not in my budget but i can’t help myself.  yes, the service is wonderful.  i love my stylist and when i hit the lotto he’s got a job and a pool house to live in, and i will have impeccable hair every day.  so i never feel like leaving him a straight up tip because i guess i feel like 20% is standard for me.  so it’s not really a representative of phenomenal service.  and let’s face it, the man has scissors to my hair every 7-8 weeks so i’m not gonna’ risk having him not love me.  am i buying his love?  heck yes.  the other problem is that i feel like i’ve set this precedent.  i’ve always tipped him over 20% to get to a round number.  and even though his price keeps going up i feel like i have to maintain that margin… even though i KNOW i can’t afford to be this generous.  i’m pretty sure i tip more than most people but i’m so afraid that i don’t that i’m willing to break the bank to not appear cheap.  which i should be.  because i’m broke.

i just can’t help myself sometimes.  i even find myself tipping people just because i’m not sure if they’re supposed to be tipped and i don’t want to gip them if so.  when i traveled for work i learned that you’re pretty much supposed to tip everyone you come in contact with… at least then i was able to expense it. 

anyway, moral of the story is i tipped $5 and it seemed to suffice.  at least we’ll know when i go back in 4 weeks for  my haircut.  if i come back crying i’ll know to tip more on the free bang trim next time.



~ today i learned… it takes approximately 95 Hershey’s Kisses to equal one pound of chocolate.~



  1. Tipping is seriously the bane of my existance. Bah!

    Comment by littlespoon — July 30, 2008 @ 11:08 pm

  2. So yeah, this post only confirms that you and me? A LOT in common. Your tipping practices largely mirror mine. Looking over my receipts at the end of each month causes a lot of raised eyebrows at the tip line; just WHAT was I thinking? And it’s not that I’m bad at math. I have a tipping problem. Nowadays, I mostly imagine that waiter was me, and the economy’s bad anyway, and what’s a few dollars? Except those few dollars, they add up. And hello, the economy’s bad for me too! I don’t have a solution. Just a commiseration.

    Comment by magda — July 31, 2008 @ 7:18 am

  3. I tip well when I feel like it’s deserved. If I have a waiter or waitress that I feel like busts her ass, then s/he gets a great tip. Bad service = bad tip. In the same way people who don’t tip well shouldn’t go to places where they have to tip, people who live on tips should provide great service to get great tips.

    Comment by penelope — July 31, 2008 @ 10:32 am

  4. My BF is an over-tipper too. It’s the former waiter in him. I always struggle with how much to tip when we’re out–too little and the waiter/bartender hates me. Just average and the BF gets a little fidgety.

    Comment by stealthnerd — July 31, 2008 @ 1:17 pm

  5. I’m a chronic over-tipper as well. My hairdresser gets a pretty hefty tip just because I know she’s the one cutting my hair and I don’t want her to think I’m stingy! Restaurants i’m bad too, my younger sisters are kind of cheap and I’m constantly telling them that 20 percent isn’t “absolutely ridiculous” and is in fact, pretty much standard if you get really good service!

    Comment by Ask Alice — July 31, 2008 @ 3:28 pm

  6. I’ll bet the $5 was fine – some people probably leave nothing at all, so leaving a few
    bucks will likely seem generous.

    Comment by freckledk — August 4, 2008 @ 10:02 am

  7. I am outing myself as a fellow chronic over-tipper. It is a standard issue complex for anyone who spends even five minutes in the service industry – certain women from a certain coffee shop who used to hold up the bar at a restaurant that I once ran being exceedingly notable exceptions.

    Comment by restaurantrefugee — August 4, 2008 @ 2:26 pm

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